Bringing your Highest Self to your marriage, parenting, and family life....

A few years ago, I had a call with someone who potentially wanted to work with me, who was a Psychologist. 

She struggled with this concept of "Having a relationship with your Heart". She laughed when I mentioned that this was what she needed to learn to trust herself.

That conversation has never left me...She had no relationship with Trust. She couldn't trust herself... and she struggled to understand why.

I said, "The only way you can learn to Trust yourself is to build a relationship with your Heart - because Trust doesn't come from the Mind."

She answered, "I knew you were going to say that...."...and laughed..... "I know I'm in my head a lot... and well - I don't see anything wrong with that!". She kept saying... "So how do I trust myself?"... and I would say...."You have to break up with your Mind..!"... and she kept defending her Mind.

The saddest part was this. If she broke up with her Mind, she knew she would have to make different choices, including leaving a relationship that wasn't working. In our conversation, she realised her partner wasn't choosing her, and he openly said, I don't choose this part of your life.....

Love doesn't have you lying to yourself. 

For someone who is about the transformation of pain and helping others - it's impossible to really hold that space of transformation if you have very little understanding of your Heart.

And if you're lying to yourself... you'll struggle with trusting yourself. Not many people are taught how to be intentional about this.

We are taught to be our best for others outside our relationship and family, and we are our worst when it comes to our family life.

That's not ok.
It doesn't work. 

You have to be intentional in bringing your Highest Self to your marriage, parenting, and family life...

Anything less - and you're out of integrity with Love.

There are 4 people who matter the most that I think about and consider when making choices.

The first is me.

The second is John.
The third - Avery and Brooklyn.

When I transition from this body - I can make as much impact or difference as I want "out there", and if it comes at a cost to my family and my relationship - It wasn't in service to Love.

Rather, it was in service to the Fear. 

I often think about the eulogy my children would write... or John would write (it's an exercise my clients do as part of the Mastermind) - and that is humbling and one of the most powerful things you can make time for.

I think about what they would say about me as a partner, a mother, and, most importantly, a human being.

How did I love? 
Who was "I" in my life?
What could they count on from me?
When they think of me, what are the three words they would use to describe me?

....and most importantly - What was the legacy of my life as it pertains to living from my Highest Self?

I couldn't care less about the "achievements" - Sure, that's fun. Sure, that's amazing... but what really really matters most is - "Love". 

I don't want a eulogy listing my achievements and what I did. I want a eulogy sharing "who I was being". 

I want a eulogy that speaks volumes of what opened up for them and how they can take my lessons as learnings and move forward with Love. 

Many of us aren't intentional about being our Highest Self to the people that matter most.

It's as though we bring our Highest and best self to the people who won't be there for us when the going gets tough. 

The irony of all of this is - we will never truly feel loved.

Because to experience "True Love", in the essence of what Love really is - it is the complete surrender, safety, belonging, trusting, and at ease with life - so much so that the life force within us flows out and expresses itself free from being inhibited. 

We aren't taught that Love is a choice.
We are taught that Love is a feeling, and it's about being a victim to someone else's emotional state.

We aren't taught that Love is expansion.
We are taught that Love is romance and about what others can do for you - without any practice around who you need to be and who you are showing up as such that it can create a space for another to show you love, and you can receive it.

We aren't taught that Love is a practice of Forgiveness.
We are taught to close our Hearts, defend ourselves, armour up, and give each other the silent treatment or say "my way or the highway". 

We aren't taught that Love is fierce compassion.
We are taught that Love is judgement, Love is being hard, Love is criticism, and Love is painful.

The biggest challenge in our family life, relationships, and parenting is this.

We have no idea what Love is. There's what we think it is - And there's what Love really is.
And we have no idea how to connect to our Heart.

Which is insane to me.

Because Love is from the Heart - and if you don't have a relationship with your Heart, where are you really loving from!?

And if you're interested in living your best life, living the most authentic version of you doesn't come from your Mind. It comes from your Heart. 

If Love heals all, if Love truly is the answer, if Love is the anecdote to anxiety, depression, trauma.... Love doesn't come from the Mind.

You can't think your way to Love.
You can't analyse your way to Love.
And you can't intellectualize your way to Love.

And Love - is an expression of your Highest Self. 

For almost 14 years, every single day, I contemplate Love. I do. I reflect on it. I write about it. I journal on it. I invest in coaches, mentors, and guides who are equally as obsessed with me on the power of Love and the power of Spirit. 

I haven't missed a day.

Because I know, with every cell of my being, the more I master Love, the more I master myself as a creator. 

Whilst you may think this is "crazy" - it's not any crazier than people obsessing about self-doubt, fear, guilt, shame, insecurity, scarcity, judgement, drama, chaos...... and that's what most people do.

I used to be one of them until the day I decided - no more.

My intention in sharing this message is this.

Bring your Highest Self to you.
Bring your Highest Self to the people that matter to you.
Bring your Highest Self when you Love.

Because that's what will change the world. That's what will contribute to a greater consciousness.

And that's the only place in which you can really show that you are "grateful" for life. 

Live from your mind, you can tell me you're grateful - and you'll be lying to yourself.

To be grateful, is to bring reverence to your life.

And if you are in doubt, in scarcity, in judgement, in a lack of trust, defending limitation and lack - you're not being grateful. You're in Fear.

Draw the line in the sand. No more. 

Sending love,
Yummii xx

PS Want to know how? Watch the replay of my Masterclass "The Rise of the Spiritual Leader". I share with you the 3 steps that are needed. I also share with you the 8 attributes of your Highest Self.

AND... if you want my meditation on connecting with your Highest Self, share your biggest takeaways here, and I'll email over the 10-minute meditation.