Hitting rock bottom as a high-achiever

We often read about "Wholeness", and unconsciously, most people think it's "fixing", "perfection", and a state of inner peace and calm where you no longer have challenges in your life and that the people around you are doing what you want them to do.

That has NOTHING to do with wholeness.

I know what I do incredibly well is hold the frequency of "wholeness" - and this allows my clients to access theirs. Why? Because it's in my body. 

How?... Because I was done waking up every day beating myself up, looking at myself in the mirror, and all I could focus on were my flaws. I was DONE trying to fix myself, and all my energy was being directed into our broken I am.

I was tired of hating myself, loathing myself, and feeling completely disconnected....WHEN I thought I did everything I was supposed to....and am still feeling broken and frustrated with myself.

I was a High-Functioning, high performer that hit rock bottom - and you could never tell. 

And... I realised "wholeheartedness" was my key out. 

So I mastered it. And continue to do so. 

People who do the inner work, people who are craving for growth, wanting more for themselves and their lives, battle with two things.

Living life being a High-Achiever so that they can finally get that approval and validation they are craving - they didn't know, they didn't know were running the show. "Wholeness" cannot be accessed from this state.

And, being such a high-performer, they literally had to do it from Mind and so they shut off their connection to their Heart.

They struggle with receivership.
They struggle with surrender.
They struggle with "being with".
They struggle with believing you can be loved, as you are. 

And EVERYTHING about relationships, healthy relationships is about receivership, surrender, being with....and most importantly, you're loved as you are for you.

Not because of what you do or what you have achieved. 

If you have spent your WHOLE life believing that Love equated to what you did or what others did for you, or what you have and what others give you, or that you were loved because you were obedient, and you were loved because you did what was expected EVEN if it went against your truth - that's an unhealthy relationship to "Love". 

That's not Love.

Learning to Love yourself is an act of Wholeness.

Wholeness is the commitment to unlearning the conditions that were placed upon you, projected, and you inherited to receive what you thought was Love.

Jo Black has been in my Mastermind for just over a year, and her story is incredibly inspirational.

A high-achiever, who hit rock-bottom, and knew things had to change. She shared her story of unlearning what she was taught about Love, how to learn to live from her Heart and her Highest Self... 

She has generously shared her time and journey being in the Mastermind here. 

Many of you will be able to relate to Jo. Especially the experience of entering into parenthood with a commitment of SO much consciousness and intentionality - and promising ourselves we will be different... only to get to a stage where we are being our mother or our father.

And we have no idea how we got there.

However it's just not parenting - there is so much to do with our own self-worth and our ability to be loved by others. 

I hope in hearing Jo's story - you get something out of it for yourself. Whether it be a possibility, hope, or the knowing that "yes, the next step is to learn how to live from my Heart".

Whatever that may be, if you're on this journey of breaking cycles, learning how to live from the Heart and our Higher Self - Jo's story and what she has gone through is so inspirational.

Sending love,
Yummii xx