The evolution of human being

Human beings can be destructive.

There are things we do, say... what looks like hatred, unjustified behaviour, and completely horrible ... we will never be able to understand it from the Mind.

Never.

We try to "understand" it. We analyse it. We intellectualize it. We justify it. And we create narratives and stories around it to somehow attempt to make sense of it all.

And you'll never, ever be able to make sense of it all.

Why?.... Because the Mind is an ever-looping mechanism.

I am convinced, I know in my cells, in my entire being, the ONLY place in which we can even attempt to make sense of it all and have a greater understanding of humanity and how to evolve is from the Heart.

Because the Heart can meet what is true, what is painful, what is hurtful.... and the Heart doesn't judge - and it is from the Heart that one can TRULY understand.

The Mind will NEVER be able to understand what the Heart can. 

And I know this teaching of the Heart starts with ourselves, then our families, and then it spreads like a ripple. 

In a conversation with a friend today, he asked; "Were you hit when you were younger? - and do you hit your kids now?"

I answered, "Yeah, I was hit a lot when I was younger, and there is NO WAY I would hit my kids now!"

"How do you teach them? How do you discipline them then? Don't you believe that they need to be put into place?"

I answered... "Not with hitting. Discipline is about teaching, not hitting..."

He was really confused. 

He then said; "What - you talk to them?! And if they don't listen - surely you realise you need to do more than talk! I'll have no problems hitting my kid to put them into place. I was hit, I turned out ok....Look at you, you turned out ok too!"

And this is what I said. "No I didn't. I didn't turn out ok because of physical punishment and being hurt. I had to heal that!.... and no... hitting doesn't put anyone into place!" 

What surprised me even more was how I was even having this conversation.

I thought we were over-punishing children with hitting and control. I thought I was the last generation where we used hitting and controlling in parenting.

We destroy each other, and we destroy what connects us as human beings when we destroy safety and trust. 

Nothing destroys safety and trust like the abuse of our power and influence over another human being who can't defend themselves - and looks to us for guidance and love.

Hurt people, want others to be hurt.
Healed people, want others to know the power of healing.

So heal your hurt. 

And you heal your hurt by learning how to live from your Heart.

And you start living from your Heart when you can allow your pain to arise WITHOUT making it mean anything about you - and you continue to choose Love. 

You do this - and you are making a stand for the evolution of human being. 

The more and more we continue to live from our Mind, the more and more we will continue to find any excuse to hate on each other, to distrust each other, to abuse each other, and to misuse this experience of life.

Even those that think they are high and mighty - the moment you think you're better and you know better because you're more "Spiritual" you've just disconnected yourself from humanity.

The evolution of human being is the emotional generosity we bring to each other and what it means to be human.

And in owning our pain, we create space for others to own their pain - and each and everyone is responsible for taking care of their pain and not projecting their pain.

The destruction of human beings lives in the projection of pain. 
The evolution of human beings is the understanding of pain, which can only come from the Heart. 

So... if you have hurt your child, physically disciplined them and want to be able to make repairs... here's how.

1. Forgive yourself first. This is where you meet you, with your Heart.
2. Own that pain that you projected - and ask what the pain needs - and meet it with Love.
3. When you're ready, seek forgiveness and be willing to be in the unknown. If you seek forgiveness from your children and expect forgiveness, you're in your Mind. If you seek forgiveness and can have compassion for what it takes to forgive, you're in your Heart. They may or may not forgive you - and that is what you need to love yourself through. 

And that is how you contribute to a more compassionate, understanding, and emotionally generous world.

We are not in a hopeless place.

We have the power to alter the trajectory of what it means to be human and the evolution of human beings.

I believe it starts with ourselves.
In our homes.
With our families.
And that ripples out into the world.

You're not meant to do it all, hold it all, and control it all.

Take off the armour. Stop fighting within yourself. And the warrior within you doesn't need to be in your family. No-one wins there.

As a parent, I'm responsible for the world I create for my children and what I leave behind as my legacy.

And my legacy, is Love.

My children didn't come through me to experience life in a world where Hate is more powerful than Love.

That's not why I became a parent.

And my children didn't choose to come into this existence for me to fight and defend my limitations. 

No. They came to wake me up to truth. They came to ignite within me a fire of who I really am.

Love. That is you. That is me. That is the truth of ALL of us.

So many have forgotten. It's time to have us all remember.

And that's the evolution of human being. When we remember, who we really are, is Love.

And Love is our truest legacy.

Sending love,
Yummii xx