"You're not listening to me?!"
Do you feel yourself say that one too many times? Do you feel powerless and helpless and out of control sometimes?
Do the frustration and the angst consume you?
There is a key intention I have for this post.
To heal your addiction to having your child listening to you.
Because when your attention is on your child listening to you, most probably what will be...
"Your children didn't come with a manual" - however, what if there is a manual for parenting?
Let's entertain this idea...
Imagine the same conflict and challenges are coming up over and over again...
When you first become a parent, it's the challenge of sleep, the challenge of feeling lonely, the challenge of navigating the transition of being a couple to parents and a family... the...
Easter has just passed - and whether you're one to celebrate Easter or not, I wanted to share a beautiful lesson I've learnt from Easter.
This isn't meant to be a blasphemous post, nor do I want to offend anyone. It is just my take on the Easter story.
Growing up with a strong Catholic influence, I was taught that Jesus died for our sins and sacrificed his life for Love.
I was also taught that...
"What's your biggest struggle in parenting?" I asked my client.
He pauses. He looks down - then looks up at me.
"That we have a teenager and that we're not prepared to do what is needed to parent him. We have trouble reaching him."
"What's your wife's biggest struggle in parenting?" I asked
"Her disconnection with him. There is no connection. And she can't stand him." He answers.
"When was the...
One of the biggest fears for any child - no matter if they are 6 months old, 5 years old, 16 years old or even 21 years old is this...
The fear of being invisible.
The fear of being unseen. Unrecognised. Unacknowledged.
This fear isn't just limited to children. It is in all of us.
The hardest thing about parenting is how we navigate feeling "unseen".
Unseen by our spouse, unseen by our...
What a global whirlwind we are in now!... You can laugh, you can cry... and in fact, ALL emotions and feelings are valid.
What is happening in our world, with over 7 billion people will have 7 billion different interpretations and "realities".
In the context of families, these are some of the things you may be dealing with:
Is your inner-child raging?
The fracture you feel in your parenting is to do with the unhealed fracture of your experience as a child.
In making peace with our parents, it isn't about rehashing the past.
Making peace with our past isn't about rehashing the trauma or rehashing what has happened.
Making peace with the past is about being able to see it from a higher level of mind...
"I am so angry with my parents. Now that I've become a parent, I keep thinking, WHY did they do what they did?! I would never do to my child what they did to me...."
"I feel so guilty for feeling this way about my parents now that I'm a parent... and I know they did the best they could, yet I'm in so much pain... and I can't shake it! I feel ungrateful and mean if I judge them!"
A few weeks ago, I did a poll on my personal Facebook profile on what parents yearned for the most.
Most of the respondents were mothers - and the answer that came out on top was this; "How to have my needs met".
I reached out to a few of the respondents to find out more about what they meant, the challenges, and why their needs weren't being met.
Here's what came out of the...
Another day full of screaming. Full of rage - and the guilt kicks in. The shame kicks in. It's relentless. It's a vicious cycle.
You know that screaming and yelling isn't working, yet you still do it. And the more you do - the more guilty you feel.
And you somehow think the reason for the tension is because you're not spending enough time with your children.
Let's get something...