Exploring Motherhood with Consciousness, Mindfulness, and an abundance of Compassion.

What is your North Star?

Uncategorized Sep 17, 2020

I'm in bed, and the crying won't stop. I've never felt sadness, grief, loss, and despair like what I'm feeling at this moment. Depths of pain I've never had the courage to confront. 

It's relentless - and I want it to stop. Yet, I also know I have to allow the emotions to run through. Suppressing them or trying to make myself feel better and halting this process of healing will...

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Give each other grace...

Uncategorized Sep 10, 2020

John had just reacted to Avery. I step in and defend Avery.

In John's world, he felt criticised and judged by me. In my world, I'm trying to get him to see the world from Avery's point of view. 

Both realities are valid - and at that moment, John doesn't feel seen, heard, and understood.

"Give me some grace... Be patient with me like you are him. I am learning too.... ". He exclaims. I can...

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Parenting does come with a manual

Uncategorized Aug 27, 2020

We're at this unique time in our world where it's now that we recognise the importance of our emotional and mental wellbeing.

With lockdowns and disruption to the attachment of our "normal" daily life - the gift that lives within that is that every single soul, that's alive right now, is going through their own "birthing" and "rebirthing" journey.

That first year of parenthood is an...

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21 years from now...

Uncategorized Aug 20, 2020

Imagine... your child is 21 years old. You're sitting opposite them.

  • What are you talking about?
  • How do they feel about you?
  • How do you feel about them?
  • What's the connection like?
  • What has it been like to be their parent?
  • In your child's world, how did you feel about Parenting?

I remember asking my husband, John these exact questions before our first-born, Avery entered Earthside. ...

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My biggest struggle as a new mother

Uncategorized Aug 13, 2020

"We didn't start a family to grow apart."

I remember this thought clearly.

Entering into parenthood, John and I thought we had an amazing foundation and partnership - and that parenthood would naturally expand the connection.

For the first 2 years as new parents, we were struggling - It was my biggest challenge. 

I felt disconnected and wanted more connection.

We weren't aligned with how...

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Is it important to you to feel great?

Uncategorized Aug 06, 2020

Is it important to you to feel great? - It's a serious question.

...and how important is it really?... 

This isn't about judgement - I invite you to answer this, free from guilt

When we can be honest with ourselves - the guilt, the shame, the judgement to ourselves no longer has power. 

Guilt/ shame/ judgement - those experiences that "rob us of joy" only arise when we live...

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When do you feel loved?

Uncategorized Jul 30, 2020

The 5 Love Languages by Dr Gary Chapman is life-changing. If you haven't read it, grab a copy! It's one of the most amazing books you can devour for your relationship. 

The premise is this. Each of us "responds" to Love, and feels loved based on any one or a combination of 2 of these Love Languages:

  1. Words of Affirmation
  2. Quality Time
  3. Acts of Service
  4. Gifts
  5. Physical Touch

It is...

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How do you know your child feels loved?

Uncategorized Jul 23, 2020

How do you know your child feels loved?

.... Before you answer this question, I want to ask you, did you feel loved by your parents?

And when I say "loved" - I mean, you felt seen, heard, and understood. That you felt safe, held, and guided. 

Because we can "intellectually" know our parents love us - and not feel loved by them.

In feeling loved, we feel accepted. We feel honoured. We feel as...

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Whose love did you crave the most?

Uncategorized Jul 16, 2020

I believe there is a myth that you cannot mentally or emotionally prepare yourself for Motherhood or parenthood!

It can start with bringing awareness with the following questions:

- Whose love did you crave for the most when growing up? And who did you think you had to be to receive love and acknowledgement?

- What wounds from family and childhood are unresolved?

- Do you currently...

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To ignore or to heal?

Uncategorized Jul 09, 2020

History doesn't have to be our destiny. Our past doesn't dictate our future; the pathway to this can only be possible if we alter the narrative of our past.

Making sense, bringing compassion and understanding of our past takes courage. 

Without that understanding, without the awareness - History does repeat itself. 

If you're familiar with Attachment Theory; John and I both grew up in...

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