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We're at this unique time in our world where it's now that we recognise the importance of our emotional and mental wellbeing.

With lockdowns and disruption to the attachment of our "normal" daily life - the gift that lives within that is that every single soul, that's alive right now, is going through their own "birthing" and "rebirthing" journey.

That first year of parenthood is an opportunity ...

Imagine... your child is 21 years old. You're sitting opposite them.

• What are you talking about?
• How do they feel about you?
• How do you feel about them?
• What's the connection like?
• What has it been like to be their parent?
• In your child's world, how did you feel about Parenting?

I remember asking my husband, John these exact questions before our first-born, Avery entered Earthside. 

As...

"We didn't start a family to grow apart."

I remember this thought clearly.

Entering into parenthood, John and I thought we had an amazing foundation and partnership - and that parenthood would naturally expand the connection.

For the first 2 years as new parents, we were struggling - It was my biggest challenge. 

I felt disconnected and wanted more connection.

We weren't aligned with how we w...

Is it important to you to feel great? - It's a serious question.

...and how important is it really?... 

This isn't about judgement - I invite you to answer this, free from guilt

When we can be honest with ourselves - the guilt, the shame, the judgement to ourselves no longer has power. 

Guilt/ shame/ judgement - those experiences that "rob us of joy" only arise when we live in a world of "shou...

The 5 Love Languages by Dr Gary Chapman is life-changing. If you haven't read it, grab a copy! It's one of the most amazing books you can devour for your relationship. 

The premise is this. Each of us "responds" to Love, and feels loved based on any one or a combination of 2 of these Love Languages:

1. Words of Affirmation
2. Quality Time
3. Acts of Service
4. Gifts
5. Physical Touch

It is life-changing...

How do you know your child feels loved?

.... Before you answer this question, I want to ask you, did you feel loved by your parents?

And when I say "loved" - I mean, you felt seen, heard, and understood. That you felt safe, held, and guided. 

Because we can "intellectually" know our parents love us - and not feel loved by them.

In feeling loved, we feel accepted. We feel honoured. We feel as though ...

I believe there is a myth that you cannot mentally or emotionally prepare yourself for Motherhood or parenthood!

It can start with bringing awareness with the following questions:

- Whose love did you crave for the most when growing up? And who did you think you had to be to receive love and acknowledgement?

- What wounds from family and childhood are unresolved?

- Do you currently feel seen, ...

History doesn't have to be our destiny. Our past doesn't dictate our future; the pathway to this can only be possible if we alter the narrative of our past.

Making sense, bringing compassion and understanding of our past takes courage. 

Without that understanding, without the awareness - History does repeat itself. 

If you're familiar with Attachment Theory; John and I both grew up in households ...

When Avery was 3 weeks old, I had the biggest epiphany with John. It was the first week back at work for John and my first week alone with Avery (this is where I think modern society has NOT been set up for families to thrive! - Another topic for another day!).

It's the end of the week, and John comes home from work. He is exhausted - and what I see is probably only the surface of what he is feel...

I know this to be true about parenting.

EVERY person wants to be a great parent. We want to be able to be the kind of parent that is loving, patient, kind - and create an environment for our children to thrive.

We want to be our best. We will to be our best.

So why is it that we sometimes struggle? We don't like who we become when we yell. We don't like who we become when we're consistently tir...