"Yummii - I'm so worried about my teenage daughter. I'm scared - really scared. She is going "boy" crazy, lying to us and your newsletter hit home. So ... how do I learn to love myself?"
When we get into this "gridlock" with our children we tend to think "I have to work harder at being patient and present". And then we get so frustrated at them, we give up. Then the guilt cycle starts.
The teenage years... Like "terrible twos", I feel like the "rebellious" teenage years are greatly misunderstood.
(I don't believe there is such a thing as terrible twos - I do believe, however, two-year-olds have brains that are developing, and this can be challenging).
I would have been regarded as your "rebellious teenager". I would have been the teenager with the challenges that most...
"Yummii - Maybe you could help. I feel we're pretty conscious parents - and we really are attuned with Sarah. She is 6 years old, and lately, it's been horrible.
There is no joy in parenting! We're trying really hard - and she is constantly angry, frustrated, and we feel she has checked out.... and now we're checking out!
She was so affectionate and would give us cuddles all the time -...
Last week I shared about Avery navigating anger and connection. If you missed it, you can read it here:
I had a lot of feedback and the question was asked; "Do you ever get angry?"
The answer is YES! Of course, I do.
Another question was; "How do I teach what Avery does to my children?"
The answer is HEAL.
The other reveal that was shared was this.
"Who is putting me to bed tonight?"...Avery asks
"Who do you want to put to bed tonight?" I reply
"The person that got angry the most today!" He starts giggling and smiling
I asked, "Why the person that got angry the most today?".
"Because.. we need connection." He responds.
At this moment - I'm so present to the magic of generational healing.
A few days ago I read this from my dear mentor and...
I love that song from the Bee Gees! ...Did you sing to yourself and have the tune in your head as you read the words; "How deep is your love?"
Amazing how that happens right.
Your eyes respond to something you see, and then your mind creates signals in your body - and depending on the age you were, and what was happening in your life, the title of a song that you recognise can produce chemicals...
"Am I screwing up my child?"
... Is this a question you ask? Is this something you worry about?
I remember when I started getting into self-development. I had all these epiphanies and insights into "why I was the way I was" and understood how I inherited certain beliefs and stories about myself from my childhood and how I was raised.
I went through this experience of having a greater understanding...
A few days ago, someone contacted me to help them with their parenting.
"I feel so anxious and am constantly worried. I'm trying really hard, and my patience wears thin...I find it soo challenging."
She continues to share about her children. Their challenges. Their behaviours. There was a lot of focus on the children.
"My 3.5-year-old son is so clingy. Needy. And he won't go to anyone...
Do you feel that you're always giving? Even when you are running on empty?
And that other's are always taking from you? Especially your children? Partner?
Do you find it hard to ask for help?
Do you find it hard to "receive" support, love, encouragement?
Do you wish... those around you knew how much you were giving, and if only they appreciated it?
The giving and taking model of Love is...
Are you familiar with the Dark Night of the Soul?
In the last few weeks, Fear has visited...(and is still visiting!).
I can tell. The last time I had insomnia was over 10 years ago.
When my sleep is out, I know the neural pathways, the old programming of anxiousness is coming up.
I haven't been able to sleep... It's consuming, it's heavy.. and it's this delicate line between...